7. It’s Always Your Fault
It is not easy to admit your mistakes. Yes, mistakes are a part of the human condition, and all people make a couple of them every day. But there is a certain kind of vulnerability you display when you must admit to your errors. To acknowledge you have made a mistake, you need to first admit to yourself that you came up short in some area. There are honest mistakes of course.
These are the kind that doesn’t carry any fault. You may have made one without any real lapse in judgment or forethought, and you can rectify them easily. The mistakes worth noting are the ones you make with consciousness. These are the ones people don’t like to admit. You can deny these mistakes in a couple of ways.
Either you can lie about them or deny their existence altogether. You may even place the blame on someone else. A person with even a small bit of moral fiber would feel bad about these mistakes, especially if they negatively impacted another person. This is a kind of guilt most people carry. Anxious people also experience this guilt, but there is another source that adds to it.
When another person makes a mistake and doesn’t admit it, or they fail to do something, an anxious person will take on the load. They will believe it is their fault. That somehow, they were the one who fell short. If you suffer from high anxiety, you may think you misunderstood your role. You may also think you caused the other person to make the mistake. Although your rationalizations may become complicated, the blame will always land on you.